Stephanie Harrison

So if these short-term extrinsic goals are like little hits of really highs and then really, really low lows,

intrinsic goals are more like the slope of climbing a mountain where it takes a little bit longer to gain the same elevation, but you keep going and the happiness keeps building and you end up feeling that great sense of accomplishment.

And so the more that you can in those moments where you're like, oh, I've been hooked on an extrinsic goal, refocus on something that really does matter to you and that comes from within you.

It's fine to enjoy those moments when they happen, right?

It's great to celebrate when something goes well and when you're able to make an experience or an impact or a sale or whatever it is.

The problem lies with staking our happiness on them.

It can absolutely be an intrinsic goal.

And then the things that we do in order to do that tend to backfire and make us miserable.

It just depends on where it comes from.

So for example, if I was...

And so if you're finding yourself, again, the hamster wheel is kind of a good analogy here, because if you're always...

Asking you about it, I would say, well, did somebody tell you that you have to help a million people in order to be successful?

chasing something and you're waiting for the next thing to sort of hit in order to feel good about yourself, that's a sign that you might wanna refocus more on an intrinsic goal.

Or did you see somebody else who posted about that and therefore you're using that as your benchmark?

Is it something that's realistic in terms of the scope of your business and

And it's gonna be a little bit of a slower burn of happiness, but it's also gonna last for much longer.

the reach that you have?

Is it something where that number is really exciting for you because it represents the possibility of all of the goodness that you could create?

So if these short-term extrinsic goals are like little hits of really highs and then really, really low lows,

Those types of questions can help you to tease it out.