Stephanie Harrison
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first heard Nov 2024
last heard 24 Oct
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And of course, as entrepreneurs, Life is just full of setbacks and bounce backs, right? We have to navigate that all the time. And so anything to my mind that helps us to look at these setbacks that occur on a daily basis and say, hey, this isn't me and let me figure out a healthier way to respond is a really helpful tool and technique.
One tool that can be a little bit difficult to put into practice, of course, because sometimes as an entrepreneur, your business can become very all-consuming in many ways. And that's why it's so important is to expand your life a little bit. And so if you have a hobby you've been neglecting or a sport that you used to do or a specific thing that you do with your kids or whoever, your friends...
Anything that you can do to prioritize that in your life helps you to remember that you're more than just your business. You're more than just your performance or your achievements. And then I also like to recommend that no matter how good you do that day at work, no matter how poorly you perceive yourself doing, you can still celebrate yourself every single day for showing up.
And that encouragement that we give ourselves, it doesn't make you soft or weak. It doesn't decrease your motivation. It doesn't backfire in helping you to achieve your goals. That kindness to yourself has actually been shown in multiple studies to make you even more determined and even more persistent as you work towards your goals. And so simply every day, just saying, I did what I did today,
that was enough, I'm proud of myself for this and really taking 30 seconds to savor your accomplishments, that'll really help you to show up again tomorrow with that same determination that you hope to bring to this project or to this task or to your business.
So wise. I think that's such beautiful advice. I wish that you had been around to tell me that when I was just getting started. honestly, because it's so true, right? It's sort of like building up like a bench of strength, right? Like, you know that, hey, I've been through this before and I've navigated it, or I have all these other things I can lean on and resources I can draw upon.
And that makes you more resilient. And that resilience is what then carries you through. And, you know, like one of the things that I've experienced in my work has been The fear of making mistakes being so difficult to reconcile with the need to take risks and to try new things as an entrepreneur.
And the more that I tried to simply show up for that fear of making mistakes and being kind to myself and realizing that no matter how bad it is, I'll figure it out because I figured everything else out before in the past. that then made it so much easier than to take these bold steps or do things that really scared me. And so it's sometimes like you described, it's a little bit paradoxical.
You really want to focus on those strengths in order to help you burnish your weaknesses in those ways.
We all have goals for our life, right? And goals are a wonderful thing. Psychologists argue that we are very future motivated. So we are driven by a vision of ourselves and our lives in the future. And if you think about the times in your life where you were the most motivated, you probably had a really clear mental picture of what you wanted or what you were working for.
And it doesn't actually matter as much for your motivation how successful you are at working towards it. It's just that you're making some progress. So that's a really great little hack for motivation. So all of these goals can be divided into two categories. Extrinsic goals are goals that are imposed upon you by old happy culture.
So they say, if you want to be happy, you need to make X amount of money. You need to get this promotion. You need to become famous. You need to do A, B, and C, and then you will be happy. And so the easy way to pick up on those is if you're saying to yourself, I'll be happy when, that's usually a sign that it's an extrinsic goal. Intrinsic goals, on the other hand, they come from within you.
They're probably a little quieter. They're much more authentic. They're aligned with your true nature. And they tend to be things like, I want to make a difference in the world. I want to help people. I want to support my community. I want to be there for my family. I want to invest in my relationships. I want to grow as a person.
And these intrinsic goals are significantly more likely to make you a happy person and to make a difference in the lives of those around you.
it's fine to enjoy those moments when they happen, right? It's great to celebrate when something goes well and when you're able to make an experience or an impact or a sale or whatever it is. The problem lies with staking our happiness on them. And then the things that we do in order to do that tend to backfire and make us miserable.
And so if you're finding yourself, again, the hamster wheel is kind of a good analogy here, because if you're always the
chasing something and you're waiting for the next thing to sort of hit in order to feel good about yourself that's a sign that you might want to refocus more on an intrinsic goal and it's going to be a little bit of a slower burn of happiness but it's also going to last for much longer so if these short-term extrinsic goals are like little hits of really highs and then really really low lows
intrinsic goals are more like the slope of climbing a mountain where it takes a little bit longer to gain the same elevation, but you keep going and the happiness keeps building and you end up feeling that great sense of accomplishment.
And so the more that you can in those moments where you're like, oh, I've been hooked on an extrinsic goal, refocus on something that really does matter to you and that comes from within you.
It can absolutely be an intrinsic goal. It just depends on where it comes from. So for example, if I was... Asking you about it, I would say, well, did somebody tell you that you have to help a million people in order to be successful? Or did you see somebody else who posted about that and therefore you're using that as your benchmark?
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