Stephen Collar

So a lot of people won't be like, okay, have discussion with my wife about what to do about my son's drinking problem isn't going to go on most people's clear goals list. but it's got to, because it's going to take a mass, that's a fricking hard conversation. It's going to take a ton of energy, right? So like working out needs to go on your goal list. Why?

So a lot of people won't be like, okay, have discussion with my wife about what to do about my son's drinking problem isn't going to go on most people's clear goals list. but it's got to, because it's going to take a mass, that's a fricking hard conversation. It's going to take a ton of energy, right? So like working out needs to go on your goal list. Why?

Because it's going to take a bunch of energy, right? And this, you're just, it's energy management we're doing with this thing, right? It's focus and energy management. And then the most important thing is once you figured out, oh, I can do nine things in a day and be excellent at them. Once you've done those nine things, you've won your day. Now it's time to shut it down and recover, right?

Because it's going to take a bunch of energy, right? And this, you're just, it's energy management we're doing with this thing, right? It's focus and energy management. And then the most important thing is once you figured out, oh, I can do nine things in a day and be excellent at them. Once you've done those nine things, you've won your day. Now it's time to shut it down and recover, right?

You have to be able to tell your brain, okay, you've done enough. This is a win. You pulled it off. Now turn off. Now recover. Let me calm down my nervous system. Let me have this active recovery protocol. Let me be able to sleep at night. Take your mind off this stuff. And one of the reasons that's so important is... The brain has a built-in pattern recognition system.

You have to be able to tell your brain, okay, you've done enough. This is a win. You pulled it off. Now turn off. Now recover. Let me calm down my nervous system. Let me have this active recovery protocol. Let me be able to sleep at night. Take your mind off this stuff. And one of the reasons that's so important is... The brain has a built-in pattern recognition system.

So you do a lot of problem solving once you can get your conscious mind off the problem and let your subconscious chew on stuff. That's why, you know, if you're, one of the reasons I'm such an extreme lark is like, I always tell people like, I'm not the guy, if you're having a crisis and you need like somebody to come into the room and solve that problem right there, then I'm not the guy.

So you do a lot of problem solving once you can get your conscious mind off the problem and let your subconscious chew on stuff. That's why, you know, if you're, one of the reasons I'm such an extreme lark is like, I always tell people like, I'm not the guy, if you're having a crisis and you need like somebody to come into the room and solve that problem right there, then I'm not the guy.

If you can wait a night,

If you can wait a night,

You've got to keep your word to yourself, most importantly. I think keeping your word to me would be walking away from the neighbor and being like, fuck you. You know what I mean? I don't cut grass anymore. I fix garage doors. I'm better than, you know what I mean? That's breaking your word.

You've got to keep your word to yourself, most importantly. I think keeping your word to me would be walking away from the neighbor and being like, fuck you. You know what I mean? I don't cut grass anymore. I fix garage doors. I'm better than, you know what I mean? That's breaking your word.

You're sort of renegotiating and trying to fulfill on your promise and take care of the person, but you're just trying to re-strategize. How are you doing?

You're sort of renegotiating and trying to fulfill on your promise and take care of the person, but you're just trying to re-strategize. How are you doing?

Yeah, that's a different, I'm thinking about that differently.

Yeah, that's a different, I'm thinking about that differently.

logistically digest it all and we're both we're all curious the only reason I've been the only reason I'm not as screwed on that one as other people is because I came up as a book writer and books are like they're you know in the beginning I mean now I can write a book in a year but in the beginning it was three four five six these were you know projects and this was all what I could do like six seven hours a day so there was a limited amount of time and it sort of taught me one of the things I think of and who don't think about it this way but

logistically digest it all and we're both we're all curious the only reason I've been the only reason I'm not as screwed on that one as other people is because I came up as a book writer and books are like they're you know in the beginning I mean now I can write a book in a year but in the beginning it was three four five six these were you know projects and this was all what I could do like six seven hours a day so there was a limited amount of time and it sort of taught me one of the things I think of and who don't think about it this way but

Think about like, how do we define our lives? Like what are the defining things we make? our lives are much more defined by what we say no to than what we say yes to, right? We say yes to very few things. You're going to say yes to like how many partners over the course of a lifetime. You know what I mean? Like there are not a lot of yeses compared to the amount of no's.

Think about like, how do we define our lives? Like what are the defining things we make? our lives are much more defined by what we say no to than what we say yes to, right? We say yes to very few things. You're going to say yes to like how many partners over the course of a lifetime. You know what I mean? Like there are not a lot of yeses compared to the amount of no's.