Stephen Collar

You're saying you walk into a bookstore, you're saying no to most of the books. You're going to walk out with two or three books, right? You go see a movie, you're saying no to 30 movies. You're saying yes to to one of them, we're defined by our no's way more than our yeses. So I just think about it that way a lot, which sort of like makes no a little more empowering.

You're saying you walk into a bookstore, you're saying no to most of the books. You're going to walk out with two or three books, right? You go see a movie, you're saying no to 30 movies. You're saying yes to to one of them, we're defined by our no's way more than our yeses. So I just think about it that way a lot, which sort of like makes no a little more empowering.

It doesn't like sort of like I'm a people pleaser too, right? I grew up in a, you know, it was scary at home. It was scary at school. And so like the first thing I want to do is make sure you're happy, you're okay. So you're not going to kick my teeth in. Cause I'm not a particularly big guy and I don't like losing fights.

It doesn't like sort of like I'm a people pleaser too, right? I grew up in a, you know, it was scary at home. It was scary at school. And so like the first thing I want to do is make sure you're happy, you're okay. So you're not going to kick my teeth in. Cause I'm not a particularly big guy and I don't like losing fights.

Yeah. I mean, like this is a hard one, but I have found, I'll give a Joe example. So I'll just give a marketing sample. So I wrote three cult classics in three different genres before I had a bestseller. And I, the first bestseller I had was abundance, which I co-wrote with Peter.

Yeah. I mean, like this is a hard one, but I have found, I'll give a Joe example. So I'll just give a marketing sample. So I wrote three cult classics in three different genres before I had a bestseller. And I, the first bestseller I had was abundance, which I co-wrote with Peter.

Now, most people don't ever manage to write one cult classic in their lifetime, let alone three in three different areas, which sounds really fancy. What it tells you is I couldn't fucking find the mainstream with two hands and a flashlight. Like, where are people? I couldn't do it. I couldn't figure out where are. I'm a weird dude.

Now, most people don't ever manage to write one cult classic in their lifetime, let alone three in three different areas, which sounds really fancy. What it tells you is I couldn't fucking find the mainstream with two hands and a flashlight. Like, where are people? I couldn't do it. I couldn't figure out where are. I'm a weird dude.

So like I can write these little sliver for super niche books for like, like these people over here, these people over here. But I had to partner with Peter. He was like, no, no, the mainstream is over here. We're going to write abundance for everybody. It's wide. I didn't know how to do that. Nor did I know how to market it. So when I partnered with Peter, Peter partnered with Joe.

So like I can write these little sliver for super niche books for like, like these people over here, these people over here. But I had to partner with Peter. He was like, no, no, the mainstream is over here. We're going to write abundance for everybody. It's wide. I didn't know how to do that. Nor did I know how to market it. So when I partnered with Peter, Peter partnered with Joe.

at this was 10 years ago 12 years ago when you were doing a lot more fear-based stuff that i was morally and ethically joel tell you this like we butted heads we liked each other we were but we butted heads a lot we first made each other because i had all kinds of ethical qualms moral qualms and i had standards it's got to be and one of the things that i learned but what i decided with abundance was i don't know what the i'm doing these guys clearly do

at this was 10 years ago 12 years ago when you were doing a lot more fear-based stuff that i was morally and ethically joel tell you this like we butted heads we liked each other we were but we butted heads a lot we first made each other because i had all kinds of ethical qualms moral qualms and i had standards it's got to be and one of the things that i learned but what i decided with abundance was i don't know what the i'm doing these guys clearly do

So I'm going to watch Peter and Joe and everybody else sell the hell out of this book. I'm going to figure out exactly what they're doing. And then I'm going to make it my own and do it my own way, which is exactly what I did. And my next book was rises man and all the things without all that stuff.

So I'm going to watch Peter and Joe and everybody else sell the hell out of this book. I'm going to figure out exactly what they're doing. And then I'm going to make it my own and do it my own way, which is exactly what I did. And my next book was rises man and all the things without all that stuff.

But I had to go through a period where I was like the stuff that was out there that was representing me. I wasn't comfortable with any of it for really for a while, but I needed to go through that period to sort of like, This is what's okay. This is what's not okay. This is the same thing with delegation.

But I had to go through a period where I was like the stuff that was out there that was representing me. I wasn't comfortable with any of it for really for a while, but I needed to go through that period to sort of like, This is what's okay. This is what's not okay. This is the same thing with delegation.

You have to, most people don't realize, and I guess if you do this public speaking a lot, you know, you guys both know this. As long as your mouth keeps moving, like you could stop making sense for a good like three, four minutes. But as long as your mouth keeps moving, you look like you know what you're talking about. 95% of the people are not going to even notice.

You have to, most people don't realize, and I guess if you do this public speaking a lot, you know, you guys both know this. As long as your mouth keeps moving, like you could stop making sense for a good like three, four minutes. But as long as your mouth keeps moving, you look like you know what you're talking about. 95% of the people are not going to even notice.

I'm not telling you to do this, but you could literally stand on a stage and start going from English to like, most people aren't going to notice as long as you present it as if you, right? Nobody is paying as much attention as you are. And you start to realize that there's certain things where 100% quality, you know what I mean?

I'm not telling you to do this, but you could literally stand on a stage and start going from English to like, most people aren't going to notice as long as you present it as if you, right? Nobody is paying as much attention as you are. And you start to realize that there's certain things where 100% quality, you know what I mean?