Steven Bartlett

while they're eating, while they're in the bathroom and before they go to sleep.

So I was wondering from a dopamine perspective, if there's correlation between these like dopamogenic activities that are now like hijacking our lives, whether it's short form videos on social media, whether it's pornography or food, whether it's having an impact on what then happens in the bedroom and our performance in the bedroom.

I find it really hard, I've got to be honest, to have sex if I've had like a really, really busy day or if I'm really, really thinking about something.

I almost have to, I have to like intentionally create quite a lot of space.

In order to be able to be in the mood.

Yeah, because as a man, you've got to get an erection.

And I always think that an erection is a consequence, usually, especially when it comes to sex.

And I'm not talking about morning glories here, but an erection is a consequence of like a story.

You use the word aroused.

There's like a story in my head, which makes me go, oh, that's kind of hot.

And for me as well, it's not just touch.

Like that doesn't necessarily, for me, it really is quite like a psychological thing.

I was wondering if this is, there's any data around this or, I mean, just even anecdotally, like people get aroused in very, very different ways, don't they?

I also think, I was thinking about a previous relationship I had where

on the days where I'd been like working very hard and I was like tired or stressed or had been traveling and I was jet lagged, I think there was also, because I didn't see this person often, there was also an expectation that when I did see them, we were going to have sex.

And that was very hard because actually the expectation of it stressed me out more.

And that can happen.

Like if it becomes the elephant in the room,

it can become a little bit heavy, which then is sort of counterproductive to performance.

Have you spoken to people that have experienced this?