Steven Wolt

There are guys out there that are continuing to engage in the behavior despite consequences.

And so I think the statistics say 10 to 15% of men have an addiction or severe unhealthy relationship with pornography.

So I'm talking about that category of men.

Well, I think you highlighted a really good point.

There's another component to this.

Porn abuse, porn addiction, sexual compulsivity, whatever label you're throwing at it, is often referred to as an intimacy disorder.

Meaning for many men, this is about more than just a sexual behavior.

This is about a pattern of avoiding emotional connection.

You know, it's interesting.

Does that make sense at all?

I mean, men begin to prefer the safety of porn versus the unpredictability of relationships and real people.

So once again, recovery is not just about stopping a behavior.

Recovery is learning how to relate, engage, and connect with others.

Recovery is about learning how to experience real intimacy, which, sorry, has to include some vulnerability and taking some emotional risk.

Recovery is about learning to experience the joys of connection and love.

If you're not on that path, it's hard not to be in pain and suffering.

And so it's so important in recovery.

So when you think about why this is so hard, you just talked about it.

If you don't understand the neuroscience and the nervous system regulation, guys just stay in this hamster wheel loop.

If you don't identify some of the root causes that are driving this compulsion, you're vulnerable to returning to it.