Steven

I've been thinking a lot, you know, I said, I've got this vlog on YouTube called Behind the Diary. And in two of the episodes, I've caught myself out while I'm filming because I said words that I thought would be unhelpful. I think people, someone in the comments actually challenged me because there's one day when I'm filming Dragon's Den and I'm filming myself.

I've been thinking a lot, you know, I said, I've got this vlog on YouTube called Behind the Diary. And in two of the episodes, I've caught myself out while I'm filming because I said words that I thought would be unhelpful. I think people, someone in the comments actually challenged me because there's one day when I'm filming Dragon's Den and I'm filming myself.

I'm just talking about what's going on. And I go, oh, I really need a coffee this morning. And I stop myself and say, I shouldn't say need. And then I go, there's something about this casual use of the word need throughout our lives that is disempowering me. It's making me a slave to the coffee. So I make this point, which I'm sure people think I'm a little bit weird for making that.

I'm just talking about what's going on. And I go, oh, I really need a coffee this morning. And I stop myself and say, I shouldn't say need. And then I go, there's something about this casual use of the word need throughout our lives that is disempowering me. It's making me a slave to the coffee. So I make this point, which I'm sure people think I'm a little bit weird for making that.

I really need to not say the word need associated to the things because I will then probably develop a psychological and maybe a somewhat of a physical need for that thing.

I really need to not say the word need associated to the things because I will then probably develop a psychological and maybe a somewhat of a physical need for that thing.

and that was your decision, you were powerful there. That's a choice you made. There's an overarching point here about personal responsibility as well. When people talk about, I can't exercise, I don't have any time, it feels like a really disempowering frame versus I've got other priorities, which feels empowering.

and that was your decision, you were powerful there. That's a choice you made. There's an overarching point here about personal responsibility as well. When people talk about, I can't exercise, I don't have any time, it feels like a really disempowering frame versus I've got other priorities, which feels empowering.

And I think about this all the time, because if you ask someone why they don't exercise, they'll typically blame it on some force the frame makes it seem like there's a force that's controlling their life for them that has not given them the time or that they could not. Whereas really, it's just typically a case of priorities.

And I think about this all the time, because if you ask someone why they don't exercise, they'll typically blame it on some force the frame makes it seem like there's a force that's controlling their life for them that has not given them the time or that they could not. Whereas really, it's just typically a case of priorities.

And your child or your job that pays your mortgage can be your priority. But I think it's important. I've always felt it's important to acknowledge the fact that you made the choice to take care of your child or to go to your mortgage paying job versus I didn't, you know, I didn't have any time.

And your child or your job that pays your mortgage can be your priority. But I think it's important. I've always felt it's important to acknowledge the fact that you made the choice to take care of your child or to go to your mortgage paying job versus I didn't, you know, I didn't have any time.

This is what I think about language so much and the language that I use and how that's dominating my life, even constantly telling myself that I'm unorganized, like messy. So how that's probably making me a messy person. What have we talked about that we probably should have talked about?

This is what I think about language so much and the language that I use and how that's dominating my life, even constantly telling myself that I'm unorganized, like messy. So how that's probably making me a messy person. What have we talked about that we probably should have talked about?

Is there anything at all, any studies or any insights into the brain and how we change habits that are stubborn or anything else at all that you've learned from the ancient wisdom?

Is there anything at all, any studies or any insights into the brain and how we change habits that are stubborn or anything else at all that you've learned from the ancient wisdom?

I think I accept that now more than I ever have before because I've had this conversation with you. I think I accept that there's so much untapped potential in me and that I'm not this kind of fully formed, rigid lump of cells. I can change fundamentally. I think a lot of people probably, if they've gotten to this point in the conversation, will also accept that. If you were to close with...

I think I accept that now more than I ever have before because I've had this conversation with you. I think I accept that there's so much untapped potential in me and that I'm not this kind of fully formed, rigid lump of cells. I can change fundamentally. I think a lot of people probably, if they've gotten to this point in the conversation, will also accept that. If you were to close with...

I guess the step one, like the thing that I should immediately do as I move forward in my life from here, that would help me to start moving towards that person that I want to become. The organized, great partner, successful in his business, great with his podcast, all of those things. What is that first step?

I guess the step one, like the thing that I should immediately do as I move forward in my life from here, that would help me to start moving towards that person that I want to become. The organized, great partner, successful in his business, great with his podcast, all of those things. What is that first step?