Steven

And also, I then got bullied on the playground because people thought I was stupid. And then I found text messages from my grandmother to my mum where they said I was stupid. And then I found on my report card... They'd basically written me off. So 30 years later, when we're having a conversation, just a trivial conversation about the pandemic, when I go, no, I don't think that's right.

And I pull up the website and stuff. And he sees the red mist, as me and him call it now. It all stems back 30 years to this experience on the playground. So like you said, it could be proving someone wrong. But in that case, it's actually like proving the bullies right. It's proving all the people that hurt him wrong. Right. And it's showing up 30 years later as this red mist.

And I pull up the website and stuff. And he sees the red mist, as me and him call it now. It all stems back 30 years to this experience on the playground. So like you said, it could be proving someone wrong. But in that case, it's actually like proving the bullies right. It's proving all the people that hurt him wrong. Right. And it's showing up 30 years later as this red mist.

The story ends with him going to a therapist and speaking about it. And he's resolved it now to the extent to which he can, where now when he feels that feeling, he's able to point it. He knows what it is. And so it doesn't make the decision.

The story ends with him going to a therapist and speaking about it. And he's resolved it now to the extent to which he can, where now when he feels that feeling, he's able to point it. He knows what it is. And so it doesn't make the decision.

If you're dealing with someone in your romantic relationship at work, whatever, that is easily triggered in that regard. What advice would you give to the person dealing with that person who is like continually easily triggered? They see the red mist all the time. It's almost impossible to talk to them because they immediately just flip to 10.

If you're dealing with someone in your romantic relationship at work, whatever, that is easily triggered in that regard. What advice would you give to the person dealing with that person who is like continually easily triggered? They see the red mist all the time. It's almost impossible to talk to them because they immediately just flip to 10.

They avoid the difficult conversation. You feel now that you can't even have that conversation with them because they're immediately going to gaslight you or they're just going to go straight to 10 and they're going to be flooded. Right. You know, that phrase that I've heard before about like when the brain gets flooded, like they just get overwhelmed in there. Yes.

They avoid the difficult conversation. You feel now that you can't even have that conversation with them because they're immediately going to gaslight you or they're just going to go straight to 10 and they're going to be flooded. Right. You know, that phrase that I've heard before about like when the brain gets flooded, like they just get overwhelmed in there. Yes.

What do you do with that kind of person? You just curious or...?

What do you do with that kind of person? You just curious or...?

So many people are so interested in understanding how to deal with disrespectful people.

So many people are so interested in understanding how to deal with disrespectful people.

Like being disrespected. Right. So if I'm being disrespected, is there a playbook for me to handle that? And why is it that so many people are so obsessed with like dealing with disrespect? I find that people are...

Like being disrespected. Right. So if I'm being disrespected, is there a playbook for me to handle that? And why is it that so many people are so obsessed with like dealing with disrespect? I find that people are...

Well, I was just looking at this section in your book about dealing with difficult people.

Well, I was just looking at this section in your book about dealing with difficult people.

It's your favorite?

It's your favorite?

It's so hard because it's like the context dependent. Yeah, yeah, yeah.