Steven

Because of what other people might say about me. Because how I will look. to the world, and from there, from that conclusion, you then jump to, and then they will reject me, and then I'll be alone, and then I'll be lonely, then I'll die. That's kind of like the logical downward step. I always find that interesting.

I had this conversation with my girlfriend yesterday, which is, it's interesting how one belief is actually connected to like a string of downstream beliefs that then go to, he doesn't love me. And this is such a random tangent, but me and my girlfriend were like scheduling our calendar for the future that we're going to be apart for a little while.

I had this conversation with my girlfriend yesterday, which is, it's interesting how one belief is actually connected to like a string of downstream beliefs that then go to, he doesn't love me. And this is such a random tangent, but me and my girlfriend were like scheduling our calendar for the future that we're going to be apart for a little while.

So she wanted to like schedule the dates and I was like really busy with something. And so I wasn't like paying as much attention to the scheduling conversation and she got a little bit upset. And I found it so interesting because the fact that I was half paying attention to the scheduling conversation actually told her that I'm not interested in her, which means I don't love her.

So she wanted to like schedule the dates and I was like really busy with something. And so I wasn't like paying as much attention to the scheduling conversation and she got a little bit upset. And I found it so interesting because the fact that I was half paying attention to the scheduling conversation actually told her that I'm not interested in her, which means I don't love her.

And so afterwards I turned to her and I said, can you explain to me like how I made you feel in that situation? And I went, why? Why? Every time she answered, why? Why? And we got right down there. You don't love me. And it all started with this little thing at the top.

And so afterwards I turned to her and I said, can you explain to me like how I made you feel in that situation? And I went, why? Why? Every time she answered, why? Why? And we got right down there. You don't love me. And it all started with this little thing at the top.

And I think the same here where if I do something and it goes wrong, there's like a downstream consequence in someone's subconscious that leads them to think, then I'm going to be exiled from the tribe. Do you know what I mean? That's like at the root of it. That's why I think fear, you know, when you talk so much about fear and becoming fearless.

And I think the same here where if I do something and it goes wrong, there's like a downstream consequence in someone's subconscious that leads them to think, then I'm going to be exiled from the tribe. Do you know what I mean? That's like at the root of it. That's why I think fear, you know, when you talk so much about fear and becoming fearless.

Okay, living fearlessly. What's the distinction?

Okay, living fearlessly. What's the distinction?

And on that point of gut instinct, which you mentioned a second ago, is there a way, do you think, to train and develop your gut instinct? Because you strike me as someone that has a pretty astute gut instinct that you trust, but some people don't. And what ends up happening is they just end up living in regret that they didn't listen to their gut instinct.

And on that point of gut instinct, which you mentioned a second ago, is there a way, do you think, to train and develop your gut instinct? Because you strike me as someone that has a pretty astute gut instinct that you trust, but some people don't. And what ends up happening is they just end up living in regret that they didn't listen to their gut instinct.

And they only find out after the fact, after they've been mistreated. So I'm wondering if there's a way to cultivate a better relationship with one's intuition and gut instinct.

And they only find out after the fact, after they've been mistreated. So I'm wondering if there's a way to cultivate a better relationship with one's intuition and gut instinct.

You're going to end up getting a lot of unsolicited advice though. You know, this is, we all do. We get, when we're making, trying to make those big life decisions, we'll have someone who, we didn't even ask them, but people will be chipping in, telling you what to think of yourself.

You're going to end up getting a lot of unsolicited advice though. You know, this is, we all do. We get, when we're making, trying to make those big life decisions, we'll have someone who, we didn't even ask them, but people will be chipping in, telling you what to think of yourself.

And there's an element almost, I guess, of being able to develop stronger boundaries in your life so that you can keep the outside world outside.

And there's an element almost, I guess, of being able to develop stronger boundaries in your life so that you can keep the outside world outside.

Why?