Steven

Yeah, because on that project, I'm not the one that's got the power. I can still be fired from that particular project.

Yeah, because I don't want to be anywhere where I'm miserable.

Yeah, because I don't want to be anywhere where I'm miserable.

And he was a peer?

And he was a peer?

I think you're right. Now I reflect on the incident that I described to you. I don't actually think I was that composed. I didn't shout. I was very articulate, looked them in the eyes without breaking eye contact. But actually, if I was really composed, I would have done what you did, which is I would have said, please can I have a private chat with you?

I think you're right. Now I reflect on the incident that I described to you. I don't actually think I was that composed. I didn't shout. I was very articulate, looked them in the eyes without breaking eye contact. But actually, if I was really composed, I would have done what you did, which is I would have said, please can I have a private chat with you?

And I actually think it would have been more effective and would have shown more of my sort of... to have that conversation privately. The other thing that you said, which I thought was so important in the context of what we're saying, is you do have to point at a specific incident because these individuals, they are masters of gaslighting you.

And I actually think it would have been more effective and would have shown more of my sort of... to have that conversation privately. The other thing that you said, which I thought was so important in the context of what we're saying, is you do have to point at a specific incident because these individuals, they are masters of gaslighting you.

So if you don't have specifics, that just happened in that location and it made me feel like this and you said this, If you let it ride and you come to them with vibes, they will so easily twist it.

So if you don't have specifics, that just happened in that location and it made me feel like this and you said this, If you let it ride and you come to them with vibes, they will so easily twist it.

You said something a second ago about bullies, right? And there's this fascinating thing I've come to learn about bullies and people that are like this type of disrespect, is they're actually going in search of the weakest link.

You said something a second ago about bullies, right? And there's this fascinating thing I've come to learn about bullies and people that are like this type of disrespect, is they're actually going in search of the weakest link.

And the incredible thing that happened in the scenario that I'm describing is once this individual realized that I would literally call it out and I was off the table, they never treated me like that again, but... they moved on. They moved on to someone else that I work with.

And the incredible thing that happened in the scenario that I'm describing is once this individual realized that I would literally call it out and I was off the table, they never treated me like that again, but... they moved on. They moved on to someone else that I work with.

And that person, as we sit here today, is thinking of leaving that environment because of the same person who was making the little slight comments about me is now doing it about them. And I say to this person, I say, why don't you just do what I did? Because she saw me confront. I say to her, why don't you go just do what I did? And she just says, I haven't got it. I don't want conflict.

And that person, as we sit here today, is thinking of leaving that environment because of the same person who was making the little slight comments about me is now doing it about them. And I say to this person, I say, why don't you just do what I did? Because she saw me confront. I say to her, why don't you go just do what I did? And she just says, I haven't got it. I don't want conflict.

Yeah, and she's going to leave, something that she loves doing, purely, she called me the other day, purely because this person's making her feel a certain way.

Yeah, and she's going to leave, something that she loves doing, purely, she called me the other day, purely because this person's making her feel a certain way.

With that in mind, how do I stop myself becoming prey to a predator?