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It's ruined their home, their family, their financials, because even when good things come by, good people come by, they find a way to make this person a predator and they find a way to make them the heroic victim. And so it really shifted my brain about like even my own trauma and the narratives and this hero story I tell about myself. I'm like, maybe I'm using what happened to me to serve a

a goal I have today of projecting to the world that I am filling the gap, whatever gives me validation and, you know, reinforcement from people. So anyway.

a goal I have today of projecting to the world that I am filling the gap, whatever gives me validation and, you know, reinforcement from people. So anyway.

It reminds me of what you were saying earlier about identity, and I was thinking of something I read recently that said, words to the effect of, people would go to great lengths to destroy things, including themselves, before they dare edit their own identity. There's a real element of truth in that. You're talking about identity and instrumental mindsets, and

It reminds me of what you were saying earlier about identity, and I was thinking of something I read recently that said, words to the effect of, people would go to great lengths to destroy things, including themselves, before they dare edit their own identity. There's a real element of truth in that. You're talking about identity and instrumental mindsets, and

I wonder if there's a real risk to developing an identity, because you've got an identity now. Secret service agent, NYPD, strong woman, doesn't take shit, says it how it is.

I wonder if there's a real risk to developing an identity, because you've got an identity now. Secret service agent, NYPD, strong woman, doesn't take shit, says it how it is.

And I've got great empathy and sympathy because defense can become someone's personality, especially if at a young age defense was their survival.

And I've got great empathy and sympathy because defense can become someone's personality, especially if at a young age defense was their survival.

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