Suzy Welch

Grit has to be unlocked.

And the way we unlock it is to stop using all of our psychic energy to litigate what happened.

It happened.

We have to accept our own role in it.

And we have to let go of being mad at the people who did it to us.

And then we can start to rebuild.

There's no scientific validation of what I just said.

There's just life experience.

And I'm telling you, I study it really closely now.

Like when I see somebody who gets back up, it's almost always you hear them talk about letting go of anger and letting go of blame.

People cannot self-report their values because their identity gets mixed up in it.

One of the reasons we had to create the Values Bridge is before the Values Bridge was invented and developed, I used to go through seven exercises and then people would have a list of values and it would be sort of try to get you to a place where they were force-ranked and then I would literally see people erase one, like cross ones out and move it up to the top of the like, especially family when family didn't show up at the top.

They would manually put it up at the top because that's where it should be.

Whereas, in fact, our data would show that only 11% of Americans have family as a top value in reality.

Okay?

That's amazing.

That's an amazing gap.

Yes.

Yeah, it's fascinating.

And so it is true that when people come to Becoming You, they're often very vulnerable.