Tamsen Fadal

I could never have seen that at 20 or 25 or 30.

Like I was...

I just couldn't have seen it.

I actually tried to ignore that pain and cover it up with other things.

And it wasn't until I really worked through it and I worked through it with a therapist and I've done some different things to really understand all that and not feel so angry.

Grief and happiness can live in the same house.

And it's interesting, Wendy Suzuki, a neuroscientist who has been on the show, said this to me, and I never forgot this.

She lost her father and her brother within months of each other.

I cannot even imagine.

And she said that what she realized through the grief was that she couldn't feel that depth of pain without there having been that depth of love.

Think about that.

You couldn't feel the depth of pain without there being the depth of that love.

And she said when she finally understood that, that the grief was just the love with nowhere to go, she exhaled.

And I have to tell you, when she said that, I thought about it all weekend after she left the show.

We recorded the show and I'm like...

Oh my gosh, no one's ever said that to me before.

I've never even thought of something like that.

So maybe you're in a lot of pain right now.

Maybe you had your mom for a long time, but she passed recently and this is your first Mother's Day without her.

And my arms are around you if that's the case.