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That is all for you.

You don't have to do anything with it, but hold on to it.

And then finally, I hope that even if it's not on Sunday, maybe it's Friday, maybe it's Saturday, find the people who can hold some space for it.

Not people who want to fix it or hurry along.

People who can sit with you in it.

If you don't have that person in your life right now, maybe a good therapist, maybe somebody who works with grief could be that person because I don't want you to carry any of this alone and you don't have to figure it out alone either.

So remember,

If you are hurting this weekend, it is because you loved deeply.

That is not something you have to get through.

It is something you get to honor.

Give yourself permission to feel whatever you need to feel on Sunday.

You don't have to perform joy.

You don't have to explain your grief to anybody.

You don't have to be okay.

And you don't have to not be okay either.

You can be whatever you need to be.

Just be gentle with yourself, please.

And know that we're all in this in different situations.

My mom died so many years ago, and I still feel that.

And some of you, this may be your first Mother's Day without her.