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You can't even see any light moving.

Even if it's getting up in the morning and walking before everybody else gets up, getting outside.

Tells your nervous system something different.

It doesn't take the grief away, of course.

But for me, it kind of loosens things a little bit so I know it's okay to breathe.

Something else I do, I did this for a very long time afterwards.

I don't know if I do it as much now, but I do it from time to time, is write to your mom.

Write her a letter.

Tell her what's been happening.

Tell her what you miss.

Tell her what you're proud of.

Tell her what you're angry about, if that's somewhere in you.

You don't have to send it anywhere, of course.

But I really believe that active writing is a thing.

Like, AI is not going to do that for you.

Writing it in your notes on your phone is not going to do that for you.

I want you to sit down and write.

And for women with complicated living relationships, you can write to the mother you need it, even if she's not the mother you have.

That letter's for you.

It's not for her.