Tamsen Fadal

And for women who have never had it to begin with, finding those things can feel like you're finally going forward.

So I hope that for you.

I hope that you can open yourself up to finding your people, especially if you're in midlife right now and this is hitting in a lot of different ways because I certainly know it does.

I always want to leave you with some things that are going to help a little bit because we never know when that wave is going to hit us and knock us on our butt.

It could be a song, a smell, you know, I don't know, something that you see, a picture.

For a lot of us, it could come this weekend with Mother's Day here and everybody getting gifts and flowers and all sorts of stuff.

I hope you can try not to run from it.

I know the instinct and it's what I've done all along is to get busy, distract myself, push myself through.

But the wave is going to eventually find you.

And letting it come when it comes is less exhausting than trying to outrun it.

Cry through it if you need to, feel it, talk to somebody about it, move through.

That is actually how you do the work.

Another thing I want you to do this weekend is move your body.

And I know that sounds like something people say when they don't know what else to say.

But there is truth in it.

When grief sits in you, it can feel like, I mean, it just can feel like this tight chest.

Like you can't get a deep breath.

You can't breathe.

It's all shallow.

Heaviness that won't lift.