Tamsen Fadal

Look, I think some people aren't for some people.

If it were that easy, then everybody would go out on a date, one, two, three dates, find somebody, and that would be it.

I think that maybe you want to start looking at what those people had in common and maybe what you're actually looking for and seeing if those match up.

Okay.

Okay, Ren, you are not cheating by talking to multiple people at the same time.

And in fact, if you weren't and you were just talking to one person, I would be saying, Ren, you need to be talking to multiple people at the same time.

I know that dating is different.

It's been different over the years.

I don't know when the last time you were out there dating or if you've ever been on the apps or ever been...

meeting somebody outside of just being introduced to them.

But, and I always hate to say this, but I'm gonna say it, it's kind of a numbers game too.

You've got to meet a lot of different people.

So I don't think there's anything wrong with you talking to a lot of different people.

I do think two things.

There's something wrong with you staying online just talking to them and not moving that into real life.

I worry about that.

So I would limit the amount of time that you're texting and talking to people and make sure you get out on a date or get out for coffee or for a drink or for something.

safely always.

And then two, I would be saying to you, if you wrote in and said, hey, Tamsen, I'm sleeping with multiple people I'm meeting on the dating site, I would say like, Ren, maybe you shouldn't be doing that.

And I would be saying that only because I don't know if that's going to help you find somebody that you really want to have a relationship with, if that's your goal.