Terry Real

This is Modern Love.

This is Modern Love.

Dan, this is what I think you mean to be saying right now. Fucking bullshit. No matter what I do for you, it's never enough.

Dan, this is what I think you mean to be saying right now. Fucking bullshit. No matter what I do for you, it's never enough.

And yeah, he said yeah.

And yeah, he said yeah.

I amplify emotion, particularly in men. They feel them initially very faintly, but the feelings aren't faint. It's just they're not used to honoring them.

I amplify emotion, particularly in men. They feel them initially very faintly, but the feelings aren't faint. It's just they're not used to honoring them.

I'm loving Dan and telling the truth to him in the same breath. You deserve better than this. You're a good guy. Let's get you out of this.

I'm loving Dan and telling the truth to him in the same breath. You deserve better than this. You're a good guy. Let's get you out of this.

I started off... My beat were couples on the brink of divorce that no one has been able to help. These women would drag these guys in, and I would lean in and tell them. She's right. You're wrong. This is what's going to happen if you don't shape up. This is what you could get if you do. You're a good guy. This is terrible behavior. Let me reach in and help you, man.

I started off... My beat were couples on the brink of divorce that no one has been able to help. These women would drag these guys in, and I would lean in and tell them. She's right. You're wrong. This is what's going to happen if you don't shape up. This is what you could get if you do. You're a good guy. This is terrible behavior. Let me reach in and help you, man.

I mean, you can do better than this. And the men would say, okay. And the women would just fold over and start to cry. They had dragged this poor sucker. The record so far was eight therapists and not one person backed up the woman and confronted the man. Not one. We're taught not to in therapy school. Not only are we not taught how to, we're actively taught that you don't do that.

I mean, you can do better than this. And the men would say, okay. And the women would just fold over and start to cry. They had dragged this poor sucker. The record so far was eight therapists and not one person backed up the woman and confronted the man. Not one. We're taught not to in therapy school. Not only are we not taught how to, we're actively taught that you don't do that.

You don't tell truth to power under patriarchy.

You don't tell truth to power under patriarchy.

Thank you. It's wonderful to be here.

Thank you. It's wonderful to be here.

Yeah.

Yeah.