Thais Gibson

I changed my mind.

And so you see this and you see it like clockwork.

I've seen this with tons of thousands of clients.

I've worked with the same themes, the same patterns.

And I remember having one woman and she said to me,

I could tell by the way my mom got home from work.

I would be upstairs in my room and I could tell by the way my mom closed the door on her way in if I should close my door quickly or not.

And it's like fearful avoidance learn to be very hypervigilant.

They learn to read between the lines.

They read like every little detail

micro-expression and body language and change in a tone of voice because that's how they've learned to attach.

So anxious people are like, let me get close to you.

And people with dismissive avoidance are like, let me keep space.

Fearful avoidance are like, let me notice every little thing about you so I can predict your future and I can know how to respond.

And it gives them that superpower in a way.

But often then when you have these wounds and then you jump to conclusions like, oh, something changed, something's off, you're going to abandon or betray me or you're trying to control me and you sort of jump to those conclusions, it makes for a really turbulent

set of relationships and lifestyle.

Yeah.

So really good question.

So you touched on something earlier and I sidetracked and forgot to come back to, but it's actually this.