Thais Gibson

It doesn't really understand language much at all.

It speaks in emotions and images.

So if I say to you, okay, whatever you do, Jay, do not think of a pink elephant.

Like you probably flash an image of a pink elephant, even though you heard do not, your conscious mind heard do not.

And then after you flash the image and you're like, oh, I shouldn't have thought of the elephant.

And that's because our subconscious also reacts a little bit more quickly than our conscious mind in many ways.

So we have to actually use our conscious mind to rewire our subconscious mind because we can do that.

But we actually, our conscious mind cannot outwill or overpower.

Our subconscious mind can only rewire it.

Part of why you hear people be like, oh, I said I was going to quit eating chocolate for my New Year's resolution.

And then they go back to eating chocolate three days later.

Because unless things are built into your subconscious, we really have a hard time changing behaviors.

So first step, I am not good enough.

I am good enough.

The opposite of your core wound.

I'll be abandoned.

I'm worthy of connection.

I'll be unloved.

I'm lovable, right?

So we pick the opposite.