Thais Gibson

But one person has to be willing to...

practice hashing out conflict learning you know if one person's following our communication frameworks the other person has to be willing to like listen and jump in and and move through conflict that way because otherwise we don't really get resolution yeah

Yeah.

So the first pillar is rewiring your core wounds.

That gives people so much relief.

And honestly, just as somebody who's done a lot of this work on myself first, I was my own first guinea pig, you know, 14, 15 years ago before really getting into working with people.

The biggest change I noticed is that I used to always be in this like internal emotional drama.

Like this person is going to abandon me.

This person is going to, can I really trust?

Is this person trying to control me?

Like all of these, my mind was so busy.

And when I really did a lot of this rewiring out of all those painful patterns, it felt like I had so much space back in my mind.

Like I had space to think of how I wanted to design my life and create things and just like room to be present in things.

And that was just such a beautiful piece.

So that's pillar number one.

Pillar number two is people have to learn their own needs and how to meet them in the relationship to themselves.

We'll get into how to communicate them after, but in the relationship to self first.

And the reason for this is it reminds me of one of my favorite quotes from Gabor Mate.

And he says, trauma are the things that happened that shouldn't have happened.

That's the obvious, like the abuse, things like that in childhood.