Thais Gibson

But trauma is also the things that happened or that, sorry, that didn't happen that should have happened.

And that's like the neglect.

Yeah.

You know, or that's that maybe you didn't feel safe as a child or seen or protected or you didn't feel like your parents were present enough with you growing up.

So that's also trauma because in a perfect world, we actually would have had our needs met in a healthy and consistent way where we felt like we could really rely on people.

And so that's our second pillar is I get people to go in and audit what are your biggest unmet needs from childhood.

And you'll see people for some people it's like I didn't feel like my parents were present enough with me or I didn't feel protected or I didn't feel like I had that ability to really learn from a parent or be deeply seen or known or attuned to.

I mean there's a lot of needs in there but we give a big list of needs and it's okay if these are your deepest unmet needs what's really interesting is we internalize all of that conditioning.

And so whatever we didn't get met, we're often not meeting in the relationship to self.

If somebody wasn't present enough with you growing up, that's actually a huge part of healing is, okay, well, I'm probably not very present with myself.

Or if people said, I really need validation, I didn't feel validated growing up.

Unfortunately, usually you're playing up that programming and you're the one struggling to validate yourself the most and you're sort of validating everybody else before you.

And so what's really beautiful is it's deeply healing for people to go in, audit where they're missing these deep needs and

And then for 21 days, through that repetition and emotion to really fire and wire those neural networks, we get people to go through, here are my deepest unmet needs and actual actions and practices to meet them within relationship to self.

And once we go for 21 days very repeatedly and it elicits this emotional impact and we're doing it physiologically, so we have that like imagery that we're reaching our subconscious mind, that becomes our new baseline.

It becomes our new set point and we just become good at doing those things.

And as an example...

As somebody who did all this work on myself first 14 years ago, 15 years ago, one of the biggest things I really wanted was emotional depth.

Like I always cared about that with other people and liking to go deep into things.

And I realized, oh my gosh, I'm trying to, and we always do this, we try to resource from other people the most the things we struggle to self-source.