Thais Gibson

Yeah, we try to resource the most from other people the things that we struggle to self-source the most within self.

And so what ends up taking place is that we also put all that pressure on our relationships.

You know, anxious attachment cells, for example, they really struggle to self-soothe.

So they're like, my partner always needs to be available to soothe me.

Or fearful avoidance end up being like, I don't know if I can trust people.

I feel like they're going to betray me.

So that person better always be 100% congruent.

They better never tell a white lie, nothing, or I might have to leave the relationship.

Or dismissive avoidance.

They end up in situations where they're going, okay, well, I don't know that people understand me.

And I really need them to understand me without me having to communicate because they really struggle to communicate vulnerably.

So we all...

accidentally pressure our external relationships because we don't know how to self-source.

And so self-sourcing is obviously profoundly healing for our relationships in life.

But also it's profoundly healing in the relationship to self first.

Okay, so really beautiful question.

So this is the analogy I give to people all the time for this.

It's not the prettiest analogy, but it's the cold hard truth.

If you remember the first time you ever started to drive a car, I remember the first time I tried to drive a car, I was so excited to drive a car.

And then I got in the highway and I was like, oh my God.