Thais Gibson

Keep the wheel, you know, keep between the lines and look in your rearview mirror and your side mirrors and put your signal.

And like, I just felt like, oh, my gosh, it's very mechanical to learn to drive a car.

And then you do it for a while.

And then you end up in a situation where you're, you know, a year later or in a pretty short time later, you know, 30 days later, you're listening to a podcast while you're driving or listening to your favorite radio station or putting on music or talking on the phone to your friend, whatever it might be.

And it's because what we're actually doing is doing something that at first feels mechanical.

We're giving to ourselves what we didn't get.

And over time, through repetition and emotion, it actually seeps into our subconscious mind.

And that's when it feels normal and natural.

So what we get people to do is we actually have a list of every major need that people reported over collecting all this data.

And then we have people, we have like three or four, hey, you can do these three or four things that are usually the healthiest, most direct ways.

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of getting those needs met and then we get them to actively practice it across that 21 days.

So for example, self-validation is usually things like, it can be as small as just writing out three of your wins each day and just taking the time to really pause and be like, hey, I did this today.

I'm proud of these things today, big or small.

It can be like, I made it to work early.

It can be anything, but just having that ability to start training your subconscious mind to practice recognizing those things in your life.

And of course, there's a slightly different one for each need, but when people start giving those needs to themselves,

This sounds very cliche, but I really believe that if we had attachment wounds growing up, healing really happens when we become our own parents.

And instead of trying to externalize our parents should have done it for us or perfectly like our parents are human beings, too.

And so when we give to ourselves what we felt like we couldn't access through them and we do it through that repetition, that's that second big pill.