Thais Gibson

So what's really beautiful is when people start doing that work, they often end up in a situation where they're going,

oh yeah, I did have this one.

Oh, and they notice it in real time throughout the day and they feel it.

And so it really gives that ability to start noticing that in a more natural way across time.

So third pillar is nervous system work.

So we always hear things like people are in sympathetic mode, you know, fight, flight, freeze, or fawn mode or parasympathetic mode.

It's actually particularly relevant to attachment styles because all three insecure attachment styles spend far too much time in fight or flight.

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Dismissed avoidance are very much on high alert, but are they going to feel rejected and seem like they're defective or shamed?

And do they need to create space and not be a burden to anybody?

And fearful avoidance are hypervigilance about everything, about all of the above.

And so what ends up happening is your nervous system is in overdrive.

And a big part of healing is learning to get back into your body.

I've actually found deeply that each of the three insecure attachment cells struggles at the beginning to identify their emotions in real time, which is a form of dissociation.

Like people often think of dissociation as being this really traumatic catatonic thing, but it's not.

People can spend a lot of time in mild dissociation.

So we do a couple of things.

We take people through a process of retraining their nervous system to do things like completion cycle work and a lot of that sort of polyvagal theory work to actually practice getting into parasympathetic nervous system over time.

So it becomes your new baseline.

But we also, one of my favorite practices, and I was saying this to you before we recorded is