Thais Gibson

know your boundaries.

We get people to audit their boundaries in the seven areas of life, go through career, where are you locking boundaries, financial area of life, et cetera, through the seven areas.

Then we get people to say, okay, if I set a boundary, what am I afraid will happen or what do I make it mean?

It's a good way to surface some of your subconscious stuff that may be there.

Oh, if I set a boundary, then I'm going to be abandoned.

If I set a boundary, people are going to reject me or think that I'm a burden.

You know, you can really see what comes up.

And then we get people to rewire using some rewiring techniques, that fear of setting boundaries and then practice doing exposure work.

Which means you don't go set your first boundary with your boss who you think has narcissistic personality disorder because your brain's not going to take that very well.

We set boundaries with, you know, small boundaries with trusted people.

Like ask your coworker you love, hey, can you bring back my stapler when you borrow it?

Like the small things first.

So your brain, we try to set one boundary a day.

So your brain gets the repetition and emotion first.

I've seen that incrementalism work and you've rewired the core fear that was stopping you from setting boundaries in real time.

And what I found in my own life and what I've seen with thousands of people is that unless you're actually doing boundary work at the subconscious level, you can know it, you can intellectualize it, but it's not actually going to change things.

That it needs to be forever for it to count.

I don't know how to tell my partner, like, what I want in bed.

Yeah.

So what we do is we get people, they go through 90 days.