Thais Gibson

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We sort of have these trajectories that relationships follow that I found, which is that if you don't do anything really direct, if you don't have a really vulnerable conversation, instead what happens is one person's like, oh, they don't want to commit.

They make it mean things about themselves, especially if they have a lot of core wounds.

They're like, oh, am I not good enough?

Am I unlovable?

Am I unworthy?

And then they project those onto situations.

Or the person keeps dragging their feet and the other person self-silences and

And they just feel resentful in the relationship.

Then that comes out in different ways and it's more arguments or disagreements.

So the only actual reasonable solution is to truly hash it out.

And so we go and we say, hey, you know, here's what I'm looking for.

I'm looking for a commitment.

Here's why.

And here's like what, you know, paint that picture.

What does that timeframe look like?

And be really honest and transparent.

And then the other person has to say what's holding them back.

And oftentimes what I found, because I've done a lot of these specific conversations with people in relationships, and usually what's actually happening is

is that that conversation will be the catalyst for some deeply unresolved needs and relationships.