Thais Gibson

She realized that what she missed the most was that she felt like she was a nurturer and a protector and a caretaker and a contributor.

And these really beautiful, sacred expressions of herself that she, because she was going through that grief and then hadn't had another child again, she didn't feel like she had anywhere to express that or become that.

And so, you know, what she ultimately did is then started this beautiful charity that helped kids in a similar situation and that deeply healed her heart.

And so grief is also when we lose somebody, we lose the aspects of ourselves that we got to express in their company.

And so, you know, those are two...

two big pillars of grief.

And then third is we have all these stories.

We say, it was all my fault.

I'm not good enough, you know, the back to the core wound.

So that's a big part of rewiring it.

But what I actually get people to do if they go through a breakup, and usually when people go through a breakup like that, it's because they tried to start doing the work when they already had too many resentments and they were already, you know, half checked out.

But if you go through that breakup, one of the fastest ways to truly heal grief from a breakup is to write out what were all of those needs this person met,

I now have to start meeting those needs in myself.

And I have to start resourcing them in healthy ways with healthy people in my life.

And as we do, we fill up that void that was left behind from that person.

And it heals our heart.

It heals us deeply.

And part of why people say time heals all wounds is because human beings are naturally adaptable.

And in time, they start to learn to resource their needs in other ways.

It's not time doing that.