Thais Gibson

Number one, the needs somebody met in your life that we were used to them meeting.

Maybe that person made you feel seen or heard or loved or validated.

And maybe they weren't even doing a good job because it led to the breakup.

But if they met your need a three out of 10 and you were meeting your need one out of 10 to feel validated, you're going to keep going back for those breadcrumbs because you're starving.

So the first part is that grief is the detachment.

We were used to having these needs met in our life.

Suddenly the person's gone.

They took our needs with them.

And there's a void left behind.

And that void is a big part of what we experience as grief.

Step one.

Number two, grief.

And this is a very sacred thing, I believe.

But grief is also...

Who we became around that person, the part of ourselves that we got to express.

And I had times back in my practice when I was running my client practice before our online programs where I'd work with people in loss.

And I remember one time I worked with somebody on the loss of a child and it was a very tragic situation.

And her really, you know, big breakthrough that led her to really start healing happened.

She realized what she was grieving the most years later when she came to me.

She'd been grieving for years and wasn't really getting anywhere.