Thais Gibson

In other words, you know, if it's the loss of a parent, you know, sometimes it gets people to sit down around losses like that and they say, okay, what was your father?

Oh, my father was a protector.

He was strong.

He was assertive.

He thought five steps ahead.

Where did you become that?

And what's really beautiful is when people sit down and they do that, a lot of times you hear people say things like, oh my God, my father's like here as a part of me.

And so I think that we can truly move to a point where we get over the grief in terms of the suffering.

And there's this old saying that grief is love with nowhere to go.

And I think that when we don't know where to put the love, because we don't know how to express that part of ourselves, or we don't know how to get the needs met, or we don't recognize that that person, they're with us in all of these non-physical ways, then it feels like it's very hard to get over somebody.

But I think when we start to actually move through those steps in terms of how we process grief,

We kind of feel this connection to somebody in our heart and we get over the deep mourning, the deep grieving.

And sometimes we'll miss the person still or sometimes we'll feel that care for people we love so deeply.

But it doesn't have to be this painful relationship that we have to that person.

Ooh, good question.

These are good questions.

I love these.

Okay, so the answer is I would say 100% it's a little bit of a fallacy.

I would say that we should feel highly certain, but it's almost like when people say, and I hear this all the time, are you 100% ready to have kids?

You're like, nobody's ever 100% ready for anything.