Thais Gibson

Are you 100% ready to take that new job, to move across the country, to...

You're never going to feel 100% ready, but there should be a high enough degree of certainty where you feel like, hey, this is me following my heart or taking that leap of faith.

And that bridge in that leap of faith shouldn't feel like the bridge is like something you can't surmount or jump over.

It should feel like, okay, I'm going to take that small leap of faith and there's a smaller gap.

That used to be my biggest fear in relationships.

And this is something that really is true, like runs deep to my heart.

I always used to be like, how can you ever know that you trust them now?

You love them now?

How can you know you won't change your mind or they won't change their mind?

And it was always this big fear.

And earlier I mentioned those cycles of relationships, dating, honeymoon, power, struggle stage.

Then we have the rhythm stage, commitment, bliss stage.

And what I actually found over and over again, and I experienced this so deeply firsthand, and this is actually something I want people so deeply to know and understand, because I know there's going to be a lot of people like me who really struggled at points in relationships early on.

And

I had only ever done relationships in dating, honeymoon, power struggle, breakup.

Date again, dating, honeymoon, power struggle, breakup.

So you think that relationships are just infatuation or pain.

And what I learned exactly to your point is that real love is built in the power struggle stage the most because we drop the mask, we're not in our best behavior, and you learn to work through things.

And the power struggle is this opportunity.

It's this crisis, but it's also this opportunity.