Thais Gibson

I love that idea, too, that like the relationship is the ashram and sort of like we were talking about, like really that one of my favorite quotes that reminds me of this is from Rumi and Rumi says, if I am irritated by every rub, how will I ever be polished?

And it's this idea that like everything I think we still were so quick to jump to the conclusion that the hard things are the painful things.

are things that, oh no, like this shouldn't be happening.

Why is this happening to me?

But I actually believe that, and this is actually, again, I went through a lot of this work on myself first, but I remember being so scared to see people in pain.

I couldn't handle it.

I was a little codependent and somebody would be in pain and I wanted to like fix it for them right now.

And when I really started to reflect, I did this exercise once and I went and looked at the hardest times in my life.

I wrote them all on paper, like the big ones, the really hard ones individually.

And I went through and I looked at, okay, what did this give me?

What was the hidden gift?

And how did this serve me?

How did this grow me?

What did I learn?

And oh my goodness, by the end of that, I was like tears of like relief and gratitude because I noticed that in every really hard time, there was this like invaluable lesson that I learned.

And I really believe that God puts on our path for a reason.

And I was able to go, oh my gosh, like there was a time where I was going through and trying to get sober and I...

tried to reach out to people and I really didn't get the support that I needed at that time.

And also because I was difficult at that time of my life too, I understand why.

And it was so painful for me at the time.