Thais Gibson

I'm not lovable.

How am I lovable?

And you're going to honor those things.

And that's those things we're trying to get from your ex.

Your ex is never going to give them to you the way that you need, but you can give them to yourself in that way.

And that's healing and it's growth.

And you have a sense of control over it in a healthy way.

To learn to be compassionate towards yourself and gentle towards yourself.

To try to change other people if they're not willing to do the work.

No.

People can choose to change themselves, but you can only show up and lead by example and vet how somebody else responds.

The spark really means that somebody is the expression of your repressed traits, meeting your deeply unmet needs or mirroring back to you how you treat yourself.

When people have extreme sparks, it's always that.

Because people end up trying to make somebody the person who's going to fill it all for them, complete them, do it all for them, when really we're supposed to do half that job for ourselves too.

Otherwise, we can't receive it properly from anybody and we put too much pressure.

It would be for people to learn about their own subconscious conditioning and how to rewire it because unless we deal with things at the subconscious level, we'll always set intentions or say we're going to do things and then we'll often feel so defeated.

It was a big part of what I went through trying to get sober originally, like what the heck is going on?

And I just, I think that's the key that unlocks so much for people in a deep way.

So they can go to personaldevelopmentschool.com.

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