Thais Gibson

And then the third thing is how somebody's treating you.

If it's how you treat yourself, we've got to work that out.

So I would say follow the excitement, but vet that somebody's going to do the work with you non-negotiably.

From self.

Through and through.

Because what you're looking for is needs from that person who often can't supply them anyways.

And closure, when people break down closure, closure, they're actually looking for certainty.

Okay.

best way to get certainty is to question all of your stories that you're telling after the breakup.

So people want the certainty of their ex saying, oh, it wasn't all your fault.

It was this and this and it was me.

They wanna hear all those details.

You know what you're gonna do is you're gonna sit down and write all your stories on paper.

It was all my fault.

I wasn't good enough.

I'm unlovable.

You're gonna put all those things and you're gonna sit there and you're gonna question them.

And you say, really, I wasn't good enough?

How was I good enough?

How did I show up?