Thais Gibson

And then people who are out of a relationship doing this work on themselves and just, you know, preparing to go into dating reported 300% more confidence in their dating life because they felt like they knew what they wanted, but also they weren't always triggered going into dating and panicking and having all these things come up, which is really important if you're going into relationships that way.

To be honest, I don't like to fearmonger people from saying it, but...

I've just seen a lot of people over the years who they, you know, you build a relationship from insecure attachment first and you go in and you're in this power struggle stage of your relationship and you're fighting and you're going back and forth and it's really difficult.

And then people end up sometimes doing the healing work and being like, my partner's not willing to do any work with me or communicate differently or do anything.

And like, maybe I'm in the wrong relationship.

So there is a risk if you're not with the right person to do that.

Now, sometimes people do the work in relationships and that's beautiful.

And it's a really powerful, potent place to be doing the work.

But I always tell people too, like if that's the case, each person in a relationship is 100% responsible for their 50% of the relationship.

So it can't be one person doing all the emotional load for both people.

And work looks different for different people.

It's not always both people sitting down doing the reprogramming and doing the work in that way.

But one person has to be willing to...

practice hashing out conflict learning you know if one person's following our communication frameworks the other person has to be willing to like listen and jump in and and move through conflict that way because otherwise we don't really get resolution yeah

Yeah.

So the first pillar is rewiring your core wounds.

That gives people so much relief.

And honestly, just as somebody who's done a lot of this work on myself first, I was my own first guinea pig, you know, 14, 15 years ago before really getting into working with people.

The biggest change I noticed is that I used to always be in this like internal emotional drama.

Like this person is going to abandon me.