Thais Gibson

So what we get people to do is we actually have a list of every major need that people reported over collecting all this data.

And then we have people, we have like three or four, hey, you can do these three or four things that are usually the healthiest, most direct ways.

Got it.

of getting those needs met and then we get them to actively practice it across that 21 days.

So for example, self-validation is usually things like, it can be as small as just writing out three of your wins each day and just taking the time to really pause and be like, hey, I did this today.

I'm proud of these things today, big or small.

It can be like, I made it to work early.

It can be anything, but just having that ability to start training your subconscious mind to practice recognizing those things in your life.

And of course, there's a slightly different one for each need, but when people start giving those needs to themselves,

This sounds very cliche, but I really believe that if we had attachment wounds growing up, healing really happens when we become our own parents.

And instead of trying to externalize our parents should have done it for us or perfectly like our parents are human beings, too.

And so when we give to ourselves what we felt like we couldn't access through them and we do it through that repetition, that's that second big pill.

Exactly.

Oh, and just the last thing is that you can look in the seven areas of life for if some people are just really stuck, they sit at the sheet and they're like, okay, three wins.

I have no idea.

You can look through career, financial, mental, emotional, spiritual, physical relationships.

You can even break relationships down into friends, family, romantic.

And sometimes that helps like those prompts can get the wheels turning.

And it starts as something that you're sitting there doing, but it becomes something that usually by day seven or so, people are like, oh, yeah, this is this.

Oh, three, like that took me two seconds.