Thais Gibson

Or dismissive avoidance.

They end up in situations where they're going, okay, well, I don't know that people understand me.

And I really need them to understand me without me having to communicate because they really struggle to communicate vulnerably.

So we all...

accidentally pressure our external relationships because we don't know how to self-source.

And so self-sourcing is obviously profoundly healing for our relationships in life.

But also it's profoundly healing in the relationship to self first.

Okay, so really beautiful question.

So this is the analogy I give to people all the time for this.

It's not the prettiest analogy, but it's the cold hard truth.

If you remember the first time you ever started to drive a car, I remember the first time I tried to drive a car, I was so excited to drive a car.

And then I got in the highway and I was like, oh my God.

Keep the wheel, you know, keep between the lines and look in your rearview mirror and your side mirrors and put your signal.

And like, I just felt like, oh, my gosh, it's very mechanical to learn to drive a car.

And then you do it for a while.

And then you end up in a situation where you're, you know, a year later or in a pretty short time later, you know, 30 days later, you're listening to a podcast while you're driving or listening to your favorite radio station or putting on music or talking on the phone to your friend, whatever it might be.

And it's because what we're actually doing is doing something that at first feels mechanical.

We're giving to ourselves what we didn't get.

And over time, through repetition and emotion, it actually seeps into our subconscious mind.

And that's when it feels normal and natural.