Thais Gibson

And the first pillar is to rewire those core wounds.

So our core wounds, I like to think of as a bear in the woods.

So if you go into the woods tomorrow and you see a bear and the bear chases you and you run away and you're safe, thank goodness, but you have to go back into the woods the next day.

Well, what does the mind do?

The mind is like the trees blow in the breeze and you're like, the bear, the bear is coming.

And so we are very wired to hang on to negative.

We have a negativity bias.

We hang on to negative things more than positive.

We don't, after being chased by the bear, think of how pretty the flowers were when we were running.

We think of the bear's teeth and how scary it was.

And we store threatening experiences.

And then we're actually wired to project them back out onto our world so that we can protect ourselves from them.

So that's great if you're out in the woods and you're trying to survive, but it's not great when we have relational issues where you felt abandoned as a child or betrayed or trapped.

And so now as an adult, you project that everybody will abandon, betray, or trap you.

And so we're not born with those wounds.

They get imprinted through repetition and emotion over time, and we can change that wiring.

So for the first pillar, the exercise I usually get people to start with, it's a really easy one.

It takes about 21 days.

is three steps.

Step number one is you find the wound and it's opposite.