Thais Gibson

And then they feel guilty that they were harsh.

And then they go back to setting no boundaries out of guilt again.

And so each attachment cell has these dysfunctional patterns in their boundaries too.

And those are all things, all five of those pillars, whether it's the core wounds or the needs or the nervous system or the communication or boundaries, all five of these things can be rewired at a subconscious level.

If you could see my face, I'm just like sitting here smiling.

Yeah.

You nailed it.

You're just so smart.

But yes, exactly.

So here's the actual playing out of it.

A lot of people, and it drives me nuts, they'll be like, oh, I'm just going to regulate my nervous system.

I'll try to do somatic processing.

And it's like, okay, cool.

You can band-aid yourself all day with only doing somatic work.

but like you're getting dysregulated because you're projecting a core wound first.

Right.

So, so if somebody is constantly fearing abandonment because that's a huge wound and it's popping up for them all the time and then they go, okay, let me do some somatic breathing and nervous system regulation work.

But then three hours later you get the fear of abandonment again.

It's kind of a bandaid.

So, so nervous system regulation is extremely important, but it's our third pillar on purpose.