Thais Gibson

It's a little more intense and excruciating.

And so pillars one and two, we get people to rewire their core wounds first.

Because when you're really triggered, let's say you have a disrespect core wound that came up.

And you're like, okay, what do I need?

You're trying to figure out what you need in a situation.

And let's say your boss asks you to work late and you think your boss is disrespecting you.

You might think your need is to yell at your boss.

When in reality, your need might be to just tell your boss no and politely set a boundary.

So we have to do the wounds first because when we're triggered, we can't find our needs, which is the second pillar.

When we have our core wounds up and unmet needs, our nervous system is always dysregulated.

So then just doing nervous system regulation as the third pillar, if we try to start there,

it just becomes problematic.

We're just always doing the nervous system work without getting to the roots of why we're dysregulated.

So we do core wounds, then needs, then nervous system.

And once we're sound within ourselves, we have less core wounds, we know our needs, we're more regulated.

Well, now we have the power to communicate better because we're regulated and we know what we need.

And we also can set boundaries better when we don't have core wounds around them.

Because a lot of the reason we actually... For me in my own healing, for example, I knew everything about boundaries.

I read all the boundary books.

I read all the published literature on boundaries.