Thais Gibson

And they seemed to have a really constructive conversation about it.

And they left and they came back the next week.

And literally before they sat on the couch, like they didn't even finish sitting down.

And the wife said, my husband didn't even support me this week.

We talked about it.

He didn't even try.

And the husband like looked shocked.

And he was like, what do you mean?

I took out the trash.

crash.

I did the dishes.

I tried to help out around the house.

And she was like, oh, but support for me is somebody actually giving me encouragement and words of affirmation and telling me they love me, they appreciate me, noticing my hard work.

That's support.

And so we have to paint the picture of what the need looks like so it's clear.

So for example, let's say two people are in a conflict.

And let's say it's an anxious and a dismissive avoidant.

And the anxious person's saying, hey, you're not calling me enough.

And

Often what happens when people try to communicate is they do what we call negative framing.