Thais Gibson

Like,

Let me understand this.

This temporary label gives me context into the things within me that may need a little bit more love or healing or support.

But the actual work is being able to say, OK, here are my patterns.

Where do they come from?

And then actually rewiring them at the subconscious level.

And that's what I definitely hope the key takeaway is for today.

Yeah.

So the first thing is everybody has an attachment style and there are four of them.

And this is one of the biggest studied bodies of work originally.

And it originally came from John Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth of Cambridge University.

And they said, hey, there are four attachment styles.

The first one is securely attached style.

So they represent about 50% of the population, data shows us.

I always have a hard time with that.

I'm like, wait, it seems like it may not be quite so high.

But basically, securely attached individuals are people who grew up in childhood with what we call a lot of approach-oriented behaviors from their parents.

And it sounds like such a small thing, but it goes such a long way.

So approach oriented behaviors really means that when a child is young, if they cry or they get distressed, the parent is attuned.

They're very present and they notice it and they approach the child to be like, what's wrong?