Thais Gibson

Those are those big triggers that they're bringing from their past because their subconscious mind was imprinted with that.

And then we always project that into the present.

And I often give people this analogy of like a bear in the woods.

If you go into the woods tomorrow and you see a bear and you run from it and you're safe, thank goodness.

But then the very next day you go back into the woods.

Well, what does your mind do?

You're like bracing for the bear.

You're like, the bear is coming.

The trees blow in the wind and you're like, oh my God, the bear.

And so what's really interesting is that

We all do that, right?

We all have, oh, I felt abandoned as a child.

Okay, I project that as an adult.

Oh, I felt not good enough as a child.

That's what I bring into my relationships as an adult.

And that's honestly what our relationship baggage is.

And those are all things that interfere the most in our relationships, but those are solvable problems.

So that's sort of the anxious attachment style.

And do you want me to go into the other two?

Okay, so we have our secure, we have our anxious.