Thais Gibson

So I was originally working for the first few years of my practice, not with attachment cells, but actually with people in their core wounds.

So like, what are these big triggers that we carry from our past into our present?

And, you know, how is this showing up in our life?

And so what was really interesting about that is I was working with people on rewiring their triggers, learning their own needs and how to meet them in healthy ways, learning to regulate their nervous system, learning to communicate and set boundaries.

And then I came to attachment styles, actually, because I met my now husband.

And we both had our own little things we hadn't worked out in relationships yet.

And I started revisiting attachment theory, which I'd learned at a very high level in university.

And I was like, wait, like, first of all, if I know somebody's attachment style, I now know...

Exactly what their core wounds are going to be.

Exactly what their needs are going to be.

Exactly what these emotional patterns are going to be in relationships and what their nervous system is going to be functioning like.

And I know what types of boundary issues they're going to have and how they tend to communicate in relationships.

And it was so interesting because like original attachment theory didn't cover any of that.

It was more about like temperament and some of your behaviors.

And so I was like, oh my gosh, tell me somebody's attachment style and I can help them rewire all these different patterns and themes.

And so what was really exciting to me is like attachment styles became mainstream, but then it was like, okay, here's your attachment style.

And that's when people started to identify instead of like, hey, let me do that underlying work.

So going back to, I detoured there, but going back to this, that's the anxious attachment cell in a nutshell.

It's like those are their themes and their patterns.

They fear like the abandonment, feeling not good enough, feeling excluded, disliked, rejected.