The Host

I just chose to let it build up in the background and then eventually it just burst. And that's not healthy. I don't think it's healthy. I can sit here and be like, oh, that's just the way that I do things. But I don't want to do things that way. I'd rather I talk through something that happens immediately than just like let it kind of burrow and simmer. I don't want it to boil over.

I'd rather cook, you know, consistently. Literally let him cook. Like on some, let him cook consistently. And I think that's become a fear of mine. It's avoidance. I am really fearful that I will avoid things. And it's sometimes very scary for me to confront a partner or a friend or a family member. Because I'm like, well, in the past when I was honest, it would cause discomfort.

I'd rather cook, you know, consistently. Literally let him cook. Like on some, let him cook consistently. And I think that's become a fear of mine. It's avoidance. I am really fearful that I will avoid things. And it's sometimes very scary for me to confront a partner or a friend or a family member. Because I'm like, well, in the past when I was honest, it would cause discomfort.

I'd rather cook, you know, consistently. Literally let him cook. Like on some, let him cook consistently. And I think that's become a fear of mine. It's avoidance. I am really fearful that I will avoid things. And it's sometimes very scary for me to confront a partner or a friend or a family member. Because I'm like, well, in the past when I was honest, it would cause discomfort.

And we want to be comfortable. Because in the past, when I would address these kinds of things with honesty, it would cause discomfort. And I want people to be comfortable. You know, we all want to be comfortable. So when it's uncomfortable, it's, oh, it's odd. Why would we want to lean into that? But on the flip side, it's like so important because that fear is temporary.

And we want to be comfortable. Because in the past, when I would address these kinds of things with honesty, it would cause discomfort. And I want people to be comfortable. You know, we all want to be comfortable. So when it's uncomfortable, it's, oh, it's odd. Why would we want to lean into that? But on the flip side, it's like so important because that fear is temporary.

And we want to be comfortable. Because in the past, when I would address these kinds of things with honesty, it would cause discomfort. And I want people to be comfortable. You know, we all want to be comfortable. So when it's uncomfortable, it's, oh, it's odd. Why would we want to lean into that? But on the flip side, it's like so important because that fear is temporary.

When I go and lean into it. And when I do actually address a problem, I feel so much better. I feel like a Like a whole weight has been lifted off my shoulders, right? Like I said before, it's like the different type of fear kind of dissipates and you're like, oh, wow. I just, I made that in my mind so much bigger and worse and scarier than it actually was. It's actually not that bad.

When I go and lean into it. And when I do actually address a problem, I feel so much better. I feel like a Like a whole weight has been lifted off my shoulders, right? Like I said before, it's like the different type of fear kind of dissipates and you're like, oh, wow. I just, I made that in my mind so much bigger and worse and scarier than it actually was. It's actually not that bad.

When I go and lean into it. And when I do actually address a problem, I feel so much better. I feel like a Like a whole weight has been lifted off my shoulders, right? Like I said before, it's like the different type of fear kind of dissipates and you're like, oh, wow. I just, I made that in my mind so much bigger and worse and scarier than it actually was. It's actually not that bad.

It's really not that bad. It's the same thing right now. Maybe you feel like you are missing out on experiences in your youth because of the way the world is, because of certain decisions that you made right earlier on in your life. And you're like, man, everyone has a cooler life than me. And maybe you suppress that. Maybe you're trying to run away from those thoughts. And I think that

It's really not that bad. It's the same thing right now. Maybe you feel like you are missing out on experiences in your youth because of the way the world is, because of certain decisions that you made right earlier on in your life. And you're like, man, everyone has a cooler life than me. And maybe you suppress that. Maybe you're trying to run away from those thoughts. And I think that

It's really not that bad. It's the same thing right now. Maybe you feel like you are missing out on experiences in your youth because of the way the world is, because of certain decisions that you made right earlier on in your life. And you're like, man, everyone has a cooler life than me. And maybe you suppress that. Maybe you're trying to run away from those thoughts. And I think that

That's not the way to solve it. If you want to really stop feeling that way, I think you need to address the fear. You have to lean into it. You have to be like, well, why am I feeling this kind of fear of like my path not working out? Why do I... Why do I feel this? Like, if I genuinely want to do this, why do I feel like I need to do it before I'm age, you know, 18, 25, 28?

That's not the way to solve it. If you want to really stop feeling that way, I think you need to address the fear. You have to lean into it. You have to be like, well, why am I feeling this kind of fear of like my path not working out? Why do I... Why do I feel this? Like, if I genuinely want to do this, why do I feel like I need to do it before I'm age, you know, 18, 25, 28?

That's not the way to solve it. If you want to really stop feeling that way, I think you need to address the fear. You have to lean into it. You have to be like, well, why am I feeling this kind of fear of like my path not working out? Why do I... Why do I feel this? Like, if I genuinely want to do this, why do I feel like I need to do it before I'm age, you know, 18, 25, 28?

Why do I feel like I have this clock on me when I have my entire life to figure this out and to make things work? The last thing I'll say is just I've witnessed a lot of people in my life where fear ruled their life. And comfort was the only thing they understood. It is a choice. It is a choice.

Why do I feel like I have this clock on me when I have my entire life to figure this out and to make things work? The last thing I'll say is just I've witnessed a lot of people in my life where fear ruled their life. And comfort was the only thing they understood. It is a choice. It is a choice.

Why do I feel like I have this clock on me when I have my entire life to figure this out and to make things work? The last thing I'll say is just I've witnessed a lot of people in my life where fear ruled their life. And comfort was the only thing they understood. It is a choice. It is a choice.

Maybe you grew up a certain way that was uncomfortable, you didn't like it, and you find that having peace and quiet and having no fear gives you peace of mind. I'm not one to say that you shouldn't have that. I think that every case is nuanced.