Tilda Swinton (as Martha)

And what he needed and what Martha in our film needs and what everybody that I've had the privilege to sit beside since has needed is a witness, somebody who is just there, who doesn't try and mess with the situation, who doesn't try and mend it, who is somehow apprised of and reconciled to a kind of powerlessness. But for the person watching... It's almost unbearable at times.

And what he needed and what Martha in our film needs and what everybody that I've had the privilege to sit beside since has needed is a witness, somebody who is just there, who doesn't try and mess with the situation, who doesn't try and mend it, who is somehow apprised of and reconciled to a kind of powerlessness. But for the person watching... It's almost unbearable at times.

And what he needed and what Martha in our film needs and what everybody that I've had the privilege to sit beside since has needed is a witness, somebody who is just there, who doesn't try and mess with the situation, who doesn't try and mend it, who is somehow apprised of and reconciled to a kind of powerlessness. But for the person watching... It's almost unbearable at times.

And that's why I understand now why people have said to me in the past, it's worse for you. Because we sit there. We can't believe there's nothing we can do to help. We're hale and hearty. And we are able to do things in the world that this person who's ailing can't necessarily do. And yet we can't help. It's challenging to a degree.

And that's why I understand now why people have said to me in the past, it's worse for you. Because we sit there. We can't believe there's nothing we can do to help. We're hale and hearty. And we are able to do things in the world that this person who's ailing can't necessarily do. And yet we can't help. It's challenging to a degree.

And that's why I understand now why people have said to me in the past, it's worse for you. Because we sit there. We can't believe there's nothing we can do to help. We're hale and hearty. And we are able to do things in the world that this person who's ailing can't necessarily do. And yet we can't help. It's challenging to a degree.

And that's the grace that that person, the person in the Ingrid position, the bystander, the witness. needs to really kind of chow down the acceptance of that powerlessness.

And that's the grace that that person, the person in the Ingrid position, the bystander, the witness. needs to really kind of chow down the acceptance of that powerlessness.

And that's the grace that that person, the person in the Ingrid position, the bystander, the witness. needs to really kind of chow down the acceptance of that powerlessness.

You know, interestingly enough, we didn't talk about anything explicitly, and we didn't need any kind of reconciliation, my parents and I. But we did have – and this is a truly extraordinary treasure in my life – We did have these moments, not moments, but these weeks together, in my father's case, several years, of togetherness that I didn't necessarily see coming when I was younger.

You know, interestingly enough, we didn't talk about anything explicitly, and we didn't need any kind of reconciliation, my parents and I. But we did have – and this is a truly extraordinary treasure in my life – We did have these moments, not moments, but these weeks together, in my father's case, several years, of togetherness that I didn't necessarily see coming when I was younger.

You know, interestingly enough, we didn't talk about anything explicitly, and we didn't need any kind of reconciliation, my parents and I. But we did have – and this is a truly extraordinary treasure in my life – We did have these moments, not moments, but these weeks together, in my father's case, several years, of togetherness that I didn't necessarily see coming when I was younger.

I never thought that I would be able to look after my mother as a child, as one of my own children, and bathe her and... and be her carer, as I was for the last eight weeks of her life. She was diagnosed with cancer, sort of stage four cancer, very suddenly, and was given weeks to live. She actually lived for four months, and I was able to look after her.

I never thought that I would be able to look after my mother as a child, as one of my own children, and bathe her and... and be her carer, as I was for the last eight weeks of her life. She was diagnosed with cancer, sort of stage four cancer, very suddenly, and was given weeks to live. She actually lived for four months, and I was able to look after her.

I never thought that I would be able to look after my mother as a child, as one of my own children, and bathe her and... and be her carer, as I was for the last eight weeks of her life. She was diagnosed with cancer, sort of stage four cancer, very suddenly, and was given weeks to live. She actually lived for four months, and I was able to look after her.

I was working for the first two months, and I had to pop back and forth. But when I came back to see her, asked her if she wanted me to take her home from the hospital she was in, she said yes, and I took her home and looked after her myself. And to look after her in the way that I... I was able to, such an amazing thing. I never could have seen it in my stars.

I was working for the first two months, and I had to pop back and forth. But when I came back to see her, asked her if she wanted me to take her home from the hospital she was in, she said yes, and I took her home and looked after her myself. And to look after her in the way that I... I was able to, such an amazing thing. I never could have seen it in my stars.

I was working for the first two months, and I had to pop back and forth. But when I came back to see her, asked her if she wanted me to take her home from the hospital she was in, she said yes, and I took her home and looked after her myself. And to look after her in the way that I... I was able to, such an amazing thing. I never could have seen it in my stars.

And we never talked about anything explicitly, but just that and her giving herself over to my care was such a beautiful gesture and so generous of her because I treasure it now. And then my father, who was always such a one-man dog, he was devoted to my mother and a little distant with his children afterwards. And I never thought I'd get a look in.

And we never talked about anything explicitly, but just that and her giving herself over to my care was such a beautiful gesture and so generous of her because I treasure it now. And then my father, who was always such a one-man dog, he was devoted to my mother and a little distant with his children afterwards. And I never thought I'd get a look in.