Tilda Swinton (as Martha)

And we never talked about anything explicitly, but just that and her giving herself over to my care was such a beautiful gesture and so generous of her because I treasure it now. And then my father, who was always such a one-man dog, he was devoted to my mother and a little distant with his children afterwards. And I never thought I'd get a look in.

And if my father had died first, I don't think I would have known him half as well as I do now. But when my mother departed, he was so bereft and for a couple of years really, really struggling. And I was able to step in and look after him. And that's beyond rubies to have a completely transformed relationship to one's parent because they're then in... A clarified state.

And if my father had died first, I don't think I would have known him half as well as I do now. But when my mother departed, he was so bereft and for a couple of years really, really struggling. And I was able to step in and look after him. And that's beyond rubies to have a completely transformed relationship to one's parent because they're then in... A clarified state.

And if my father had died first, I don't think I would have known him half as well as I do now. But when my mother departed, he was so bereft and for a couple of years really, really struggling. And I was able to step in and look after him. And that's beyond rubies to have a completely transformed relationship to one's parent because they're then in... A clarified state.

I wouldn't say a weakened state. I don't believe it is a weaker state. I think it's just clearer. And he was free to be as tender and as vulnerable as he was in a way that he just stopped fighting being as vulnerable as we all are. Scared little animals. He was able to be that. And that was such a beautiful thing to share in and support him in. So, yeah. But we never talked about any of it.

I wouldn't say a weakened state. I don't believe it is a weaker state. I think it's just clearer. And he was free to be as tender and as vulnerable as he was in a way that he just stopped fighting being as vulnerable as we all are. Scared little animals. He was able to be that. And that was such a beautiful thing to share in and support him in. So, yeah. But we never talked about any of it.

I wouldn't say a weakened state. I don't believe it is a weaker state. I think it's just clearer. And he was free to be as tender and as vulnerable as he was in a way that he just stopped fighting being as vulnerable as we all are. Scared little animals. He was able to be that. And that was such a beautiful thing to share in and support him in. So, yeah. But we never talked about any of it.

I mean, there was one moment my mum was... And this is one of the things, you know, in my inner monologue or rather dialogue with her, I... I want her to see this film so much, The Room Next Door, because I remember in her last weeks, she was so impatient.

I mean, there was one moment my mum was... And this is one of the things, you know, in my inner monologue or rather dialogue with her, I... I want her to see this film so much, The Room Next Door, because I remember in her last weeks, she was so impatient.

I mean, there was one moment my mum was... And this is one of the things, you know, in my inner monologue or rather dialogue with her, I... I want her to see this film so much, The Room Next Door, because I remember in her last weeks, she was so impatient.

She was on morphine drivers in a hospital bed in a drawing room at home, surrounded by dogs and flowers and books and us and music and my father at the end of the bed reading The Telegraph. So she was very comfy and cosy and it was pretty much the nicest place she could have been for those last weeks. But she was really impatient. Her mind was still as sharp as a tack.

She was on morphine drivers in a hospital bed in a drawing room at home, surrounded by dogs and flowers and books and us and music and my father at the end of the bed reading The Telegraph. So she was very comfy and cosy and it was pretty much the nicest place she could have been for those last weeks. But she was really impatient. Her mind was still as sharp as a tack.

She was on morphine drivers in a hospital bed in a drawing room at home, surrounded by dogs and flowers and books and us and music and my father at the end of the bed reading The Telegraph. So she was very comfy and cosy and it was pretty much the nicest place she could have been for those last weeks. But she was really impatient. Her mind was still as sharp as a tack.

And I remember one day, about a week before she died, her doctor coming as she came pretty much every day, local doctor, wonderful GP. And my mother saying, is there nothing we can do? And I remember my father kind of twitching the paper and not looking over the top of it. And I was doing my tapestry beside her. And the doctor said, well, I mean, yeah, it's amazing.

And I remember one day, about a week before she died, her doctor coming as she came pretty much every day, local doctor, wonderful GP. And my mother saying, is there nothing we can do? And I remember my father kind of twitching the paper and not looking over the top of it. And I was doing my tapestry beside her. And the doctor said, well, I mean, yeah, it's amazing.

And I remember one day, about a week before she died, her doctor coming as she came pretty much every day, local doctor, wonderful GP. And my mother saying, is there nothing we can do? And I remember my father kind of twitching the paper and not looking over the top of it. And I was doing my tapestry beside her. And the doctor said, well, I mean, yeah, it's amazing.

You've obviously got a very strong heart. I don't know why you're still around. And my mother said, can't we do something? And the doctor said, well, yeah, you were put on those statins because you had that stroke and maybe we could take those off. Warfarin or whatever. And my mother said, could we? And she was like a child at Christmas. She said, do you think we could? That would be wonderful.

You've obviously got a very strong heart. I don't know why you're still around. And my mother said, can't we do something? And the doctor said, well, yeah, you were put on those statins because you had that stroke and maybe we could take those off. Warfarin or whatever. And my mother said, could we? And she was like a child at Christmas. She said, do you think we could? That would be wonderful.

You've obviously got a very strong heart. I don't know why you're still around. And my mother said, can't we do something? And the doctor said, well, yeah, you were put on those statins because you had that stroke and maybe we could take those off. Warfarin or whatever. And my mother said, could we? And she was like a child at Christmas. She said, do you think we could? That would be wonderful.

Turned to me, said, wouldn't that be wonderful? That was a Martha moment, you know. If she'd been able to take a pill then, she would have. She was ready. She wanted to go. And she only had another week to go, and it was relatively graceful. She just sort of fell asleep and slept for several days. And then at the very last minute...