Tim Ferriss

Like, the idea that we're all gonna have this incredible leisure class with tons of free time, complete nonsense.

It's never happened with any technology before.

So, I would say that... there's a book called The 80-20 Principle by Richard Koch, K-O-C-H.

read that it and this comes back to what i mentioned earlier which is you really don't have to get a lot of things right to have an amazing life so i used to over optimize i would attempt to optimize almost everything because i felt like i had the bandwidth to do it maybe i did but

that can make you an insufferable son of a bitch, not just to other people, but to yourself.

Right?

Because if you have unreasonable, unhelpful expectations in environments that you cannot control, interpersonal relationships, your girlfriend or wife or husband or whatever, your kids, you're gonna drive not only yourself, but the people around you completely insane.

So, you know, when I sat down here, you might remember this, there was a little piece of paper stuck in here from a prior guest, serenity prayer.

And I folded it up and I was like, oh, I like the serenity prayer, and I put it in my pocket.

Serenity prayer is stoicism.

Being able to, you know, separate things you can control versus things you can't control, and then the wisdom, hopefully, and experience to be able to tell the difference.

And... I've realized that being incredibly forgiving, while knowing your non-negotiables upfront with interpersonal relationships, is, for me at least so far, like, the path to intimacy and longevity and happiness and peace.

And then with other types of...

compartmentalized, I shouldn't say compartmentalized, silos in my life, let's just say maybe it's writing a book, having like unforgivably high standards, but with a deadline so that I'm not allowed to procrastinate forever.

Because if I don't have a boss and I don't, that perfectionism can turn into permanent, meaning you're not shipping anything.

So I still apply super high standards for myself

with certain non-negotiables related to physical training or to building a... cultivating and developing, conditioning a mental reserve, right?

To hopefully stave off things like neurodegenerative disease.

Those are all non-negotiable.

But with human interactions, I think I have really learned through fucking it up over and over and over again,