Tim Ferriss
👤 SpeakerAppearances Over Time
Podcast Appearances
When people are like, I just want to be successful, I'm like, let's talk about that.
Uh, very carefully, right?
When people get into fights about God, I'm like, are you guys talking about the same thing?
Like, let's make sure we're talking about the same thing.
Uh, I am very happy right now.
I have great relationships.
I have... you know, taken care of people I care about.
doing meaningful work, very happy.
But I think happiness comes and goes.
So looking for a steady state of smiles, I think is a fool's errand, because you're going to be disappointed.
And if we come back to the sort of, let's say, long-term durable happiness is,
uh reality minus expectations if my expectation is i'm never going to have hard days i'm never going to have moments of self-loathing then in the long term i think i'm handicapping my peace of mind does that make any sense it for instance right i can give a lot of examples of this if you're trying to learn a language which i think i think people can become let's just say native english speakers conversationally fluent in a bunch of languages in like 8 to 12 weeks if they're really dedicated themselves
no magic trick involved like there's a very methodical way to do it i mean look at the defense language institute monorail like the stuff they can do is incredible with language instruction they're very interested in bioelectric medicine too by the way uh potentially as an augment but
If you're gonna learn a language, if you expect your progress to look like this, weight training, same thing, skill acquisition, it's going to be lumpy.
You're going to have predictable setbacks.
It's like, okay, you memorized 100 phrases, fantastic, or 100 words.
Man, you're gonna be making
rocket-like progress, but as soon as you start introducing a little more complicated grammar, which you need to do to make it for the long game, you're going to feel like you're getting worse.
Your ability to juggle those balls is gonna take time for adaptation, and you're gonna get worse.
Boom, boom, boom.