Tim Molnar

So I was like, ah, I really want to talk about that in the book, but it didn't quite, quite check out on the little Z test I was running. So, um, what it did tell me though, was, There is a lot that we bring in person that we just couldn't possibly ever perceive, even with the most honest and authentic profile.

So I was like, ah, I really want to talk about that in the book, but it didn't quite, quite check out on the little Z test I was running. So, um, what it did tell me though, was, There is a lot that we bring in person that we just couldn't possibly ever perceive, even with the most honest and authentic profile.

And when you're in line at the grocery store and the person in front of you pays a really genuine thank you to the person bagging your groceries and gives them a smile. Immediately I'm thinking, gosh, this is a person who sees the little people in life and treats them well. And when no one's looking, they're doing the right thing. And that's the kind of person I want to be with.

And when you're in line at the grocery store and the person in front of you pays a really genuine thank you to the person bagging your groceries and gives them a smile. Immediately I'm thinking, gosh, this is a person who sees the little people in life and treats them well. And when no one's looking, they're doing the right thing. And that's the kind of person I want to be with.

And when you're in line at the grocery store and the person in front of you pays a really genuine thank you to the person bagging your groceries and gives them a smile. Immediately I'm thinking, gosh, this is a person who sees the little people in life and treats them well. And when no one's looking, they're doing the right thing. And that's the kind of person I want to be with.

And if I see someone online and they went to maybe a great college and they have an impressive job and they have attractive photos and interesting hobbies, that very well could be someone that I would be a good match with, that you might be a good match with, or one of your listeners could be a good match with.

And if I see someone online and they went to maybe a great college and they have an impressive job and they have attractive photos and interesting hobbies, that very well could be someone that I would be a good match with, that you might be a good match with, or one of your listeners could be a good match with.

And if I see someone online and they went to maybe a great college and they have an impressive job and they have attractive photos and interesting hobbies, that very well could be someone that I would be a good match with, that you might be a good match with, or one of your listeners could be a good match with.

But the things that we know from research actually lead to happiness, none of those are captured by any of those indicators. They're nice to haves, but they are not predictive of whether or not you are going to be in a relationship with this person in one, two, five, 10 years. We have great research from John and Julie Gottman on this.

But the things that we know from research actually lead to happiness, none of those are captured by any of those indicators. They're nice to haves, but they are not predictive of whether or not you are going to be in a relationship with this person in one, two, five, 10 years. We have great research from John and Julie Gottman on this.

But the things that we know from research actually lead to happiness, none of those are captured by any of those indicators. They're nice to haves, but they are not predictive of whether or not you are going to be in a relationship with this person in one, two, five, 10 years. We have great research from John and Julie Gottman on this.

And for those of you listeners who aren't familiar with their work, they're out of the University of Washington, and they'll have couples come into their love lab, and they'll hook them up to all sorts of biometrics to understand. Basically, they'll be in the apartment for maybe 24 hours, sometimes 72 hours.

And for those of you listeners who aren't familiar with their work, they're out of the University of Washington, and they'll have couples come into their love lab, and they'll hook them up to all sorts of biometrics to understand. Basically, they'll be in the apartment for maybe 24 hours, sometimes 72 hours.

And for those of you listeners who aren't familiar with their work, they're out of the University of Washington, and they'll have couples come into their love lab, and they'll hook them up to all sorts of biometrics to understand. Basically, they'll be in the apartment for maybe 24 hours, sometimes 72 hours.

They'll test urine to be able to understand cortisol levels, like when are they feeling stressed, and they'll code all kinds of facial expressions to be able to understand, running this as a longitudinal study, what is the likelihood that this couple is together again in a year, 10 years, 20 years, whatever it might be, and they've been doing this for decades.

They'll test urine to be able to understand cortisol levels, like when are they feeling stressed, and they'll code all kinds of facial expressions to be able to understand, running this as a longitudinal study, what is the likelihood that this couple is together again in a year, 10 years, 20 years, whatever it might be, and they've been doing this for decades.

They'll test urine to be able to understand cortisol levels, like when are they feeling stressed, and they'll code all kinds of facial expressions to be able to understand, running this as a longitudinal study, what is the likelihood that this couple is together again in a year, 10 years, 20 years, whatever it might be, and they've been doing this for decades.

And they've reported that with nearly 90% success, they can tell just by watching this couple interact for a very short period of time whether or not they're gonna be together. And from that, they've distilled down the core things that really do lead to happiness and marital satisfaction. And none of those are how tall this person is. None of those are what job this person has.

And they've reported that with nearly 90% success, they can tell just by watching this couple interact for a very short period of time whether or not they're gonna be together. And from that, they've distilled down the core things that really do lead to happiness and marital satisfaction. And none of those are how tall this person is. None of those are what job this person has.

And they've reported that with nearly 90% success, they can tell just by watching this couple interact for a very short period of time whether or not they're gonna be together. And from that, they've distilled down the core things that really do lead to happiness and marital satisfaction. And none of those are how tall this person is. None of those are what job this person has.